Understanding Your Voice
Understanding your voice is the key to unlocking your potential and future. Let’s start with the physical aspects of the voice. Dictionary.com defines voice, as : (noun) 1. a sound produced in a person’s Larynx and uttered through the mouth, as speech or song. As in when people speak or sing. 2. a particular opinion or attitude expressed. (verb) 1. To express (something) in words. Synonyms: opinion, view, comment, feeling, wish, desire, vote, input.
Our first experience voicing our needs were as infants when we cried or gestured when hungry, afraid, or uncomfortable. The journey continued as we aged and nothing really changed much except, what was taught, and the unnecessary boundaries set, the one’s that scared the mind, body and soul. Essentially, what we learn from our parents and the environment we were brought up in registers in our minds for life unless we delete the harmful vices that cloud our judgment and subsequently taints our communication.
We then learn to be fearful, anxious, and confused about life because we are not prepared to face everyday responsibilities. By understanding the use of our voice, we are that much more clearer that we must use it to communicate our needs. Regardless of who tells us how to react, what to say, and when, the fact remains, we must speak up.
True Story: I can remember upon turning the age of 18 years old, as I was exiting the foster care system, I had to make the hardest decision of my life. After planning my educational career, which entailed finding a school I loved, acquiring scholarships and other opportunities, I had to make the decision to forfeit my plans to care for my aging foster mother, who was still agile and able to care for herself. She fell into despair out of fear and assumed I would turn my back on her and never return, but that was not the case. I only wanted to create a better life for myself so that I can care for her the way she deserved.
However, since I didn’t follow the plan, my life became bitter with hard bondage and full of regret. I made poor decisions in every relationship of my life all because I was unhappy and scared because I didn’t speak up and make the case for my future. I lost my way and the road to redemption has been very long. I also chose to begin the process to heal from all of the pain, and refocus my attention on taking an active part in declaring my destiny using my voice. This one moment changed my life forever, and this is why I am empowered to help others stay focused and create an environment that allows them to understand the power of their voice. We have the power to say yes or no. By choosing to say no to what doesn’t serve us or help us to grow, we will leave room for the good things to find us. How can we take care of others if we don’t take care of ourselves? Had I taken care of myself, I would have been in a better position to care for others.
To those who are facing indecisiveness, anxiety, stress or difficulty making sound decisions, remember that by understanding your voice, you will be in the forefront of your destiny and making decisions will come easier all because you trust the voice within.
For your best,
Crystal E. Melville
Community Chaplain - Life Coach